9/11 Memorial Concert

For those of you that wanted to hear or be at the concert last Sunday. Please follow this link to the "embrace" page and have a-listen.

He calls it "love"...we call it stalking.

Regardless of what its called, its still scary and illegal.

Recognizing someone as a stalker is quite impossible. They do not look like monsters. Many can initially appear quite charming, while others seem awkward and socially inept.

Profiles of stalkers have not been clearly delineated, but can overlap with characteristics offered in the domestic violence literature. The most common type of stalker (Simple Obsession) includes those individuals who were prior intimates that may have engaged in domestic violence. There are several psychological characteristics: mood, anxiety, and/or substance abuse disorders, low self esteem, social insecurity, narcissism, intense jealousy, and morbid infatuation.

Listed here are the current findings describing stalkers:

Most are male.

There is an increased likelihood of prior criminal, psychiatric, or substance abuse histories.

Immigration may play an interactive role -- these individuals may be experiencing acculturation stress and/or culture shock and suffering a sense of loss of one's culture of origin.

Stalkers have higher intelligence than other criminals.

Defense mechanisms play a significant role in the form of denial, minimization, devaluation, and projection of blame onto the victim.

Axis I disorders are evidenced as substance abuse, mood disorders, sexual dysfunction or schizophrenia.

Axis II disorders are primarily of the following: narcissism, borderline, paranoid, and dependent personality -- with antisocial personality also possible, but not as common. The schizoid personality disorder has been related to erotomania.

Loss within at least seven years of the stalking behavior (i.e., relationship dissolution, job termination, or potential loss of a child or an ill parent) is very common.

Regardless of the above, its wrong. The victim sadly, only has rights if the stalker has physically harmed them. It seems the stalker has the upper hand. Fight back! Document every incident as factually as possible. Contact the police! Make a report so that its on hand. And lastly ....be ever vigilant! Don't think just because things are quiet that its over.

Also know...you are not alone! Reach out for help! There are many agencies as well as your own friends and family who are willing and eager to help. Utilize them!

Today in History

The year is 1959, the day, September 6....the very first Barbie doll was sold by the Mattel Toy Corporation. The original Barbie, along with her pals, Ken and Skipper, are now collectors items, although new versions are continually being produced.

But how did this all start?

The story takes place in the 1930s. It's a story that starts out sounding like one we've all heard before.

A young girl meets a boy and they fall in love. The girl graduates from high school. She has visions of a great career in the real world and wants to go to college. Her parents are not overly enthusiastic about college since it is more traditional for a girl to get married and raise a family. The girl goes to college anyway and marries the boy too. This married girl and boy are Ruth and Elliot Handler. They raise two children, Barbie and Ken.

In the mid 1940s, the young ambitious duo Ruth and Elliot Handler, owned a company that made wooden picture frames. Elliot and his partner Harold Mattson built the samples and Ruth was in charge of marketing them. Elliot began to use the scraps of wood from picture frames to make doll furniture. This was the beginning of their toy business. It was in 1945 that Ruth and Elliot Handler joined with their close friend Harold Mattson to form a company that would be known for the most famous and successful doll ever created. This company would be named Mattel, MATT for Mattson, and EL for Elliot. Mattel continued to grow from a very profitable business into a corporate giant.

In the mid 1950s, while visiting Switzerland, Ruth Handler purchased a German Lilli doll. Lilli was a shapely, pretty fashion doll first made in 1955. She was originally fashioned after a famous cartoon character in the West German Newsletter, Bild. Lilli was made of hard plastic with molded on shoes and earrings. She was available in 11 1/2" or 7 " in heights. Her hair was long and pulled back into a ponytail. There was a large wardrobe available for this doll. Lilli is the doll that would inspire Ruth Handler to design the Barbie doll.

Ruth knew what she wanted Barbie to look like. With the help of her technicians and engineers at Mattel, Barbie was born. Ruth then hired Charlotte Johnson, a fashion designer, to create Barbie's wardrobe.

It was in 1958 that the patent for Barbie was obtained. This would be a fashion doll unlike any of their time. She would be long limbed, shapely and beautiful, all of this and only 11 1/2" tall.

Paper fashion dolls of the times would give way to a three dimensional beauty with a wardrobe of unsurpassed quality. Ruth and Elliot would name their new fashion doll after their own daughter, Barbie. Barbie dolls' soon to be boyfriend Ken, would be named after their son, Ken.

In March of 1959, Barbie doll would make her way to the New York Toy Show and receive a cool reception from the toy buyers. She would be viewed as risky to buyers since she was not the typical style selling baby doll of the times. Upon seeing Barbie on store shelves, the public decided differently. By 1960, the mood would change and the orders started pouring in to Mattel. It took several years for Mattel to catch up with the demand for Barbie. Within ten years, the public purchased $500 million worth of Barbie products.

Barbie has undergone a lot of changes over the years and has managed to keep up with the current trends in hairstyles, makeup and clothing. She is a reflection of the history of fashion since her introduction to the toy market. Barbie has a universal appeal and collectors of all ages enjoy time spent and memories made with their dolls.

So...for all those Barbie enthusiasts, happy birthday Barbie. You look great for your age!