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Tuesday, August 29, 2006

Happy Adoption Day!

It was one year ago today that a judge signed the official paperwork making our youngest children ours - in the eyes of the court that is. From the minute they were brought through our door on January 27, 2003, we knew these children were ours. We loved them from the minute we laid eyes on them. From the moment our adoption worker placed our youngest daughter in my arms, she was mine - no matter how she came into this world, no matter how any of them came into this world or who gave birth to them...

However, it took a bit of time for the courts to catch up to what we were thinking and feeling. Now today, August 29, 2006 it is one year that we are officially their parents.

People have asked us if we would change our minds if we had to do it all over again and I know I can speak for my oldest children and my husband that we would do this all over again - - these are our children.

Just like in Lilo and Stitch - "Ohana means family. Family means no one gets left behind or forgotten" - thats our family motto. A motto we live by. No matter where we are, we are family!

Disney - Part Two

Ok folks, the last part of our Family Vacation...Enjoy!

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Our Family Vacation - Part 2

Tuesday, August 22, 2006

Disney - Part One

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Our Family Vacation - Part 1

Now that you have seen the unedited version - here is Part 1 of the edited version....enjoy!

Monday, August 21, 2006

Here it is folks . . .

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July 06 - Family Vacation

...the long awaited slideshow of our trip to Disney - - so pop some popcorn, grab a beverage, sit back in your chair and enjoy!

Thursday, August 17, 2006

Birthmothers Day - -

I know its not May and not Mother's Day or Birthmother's Day, but I needed to write this after receiving an email from my childrens' birthmother . . .

Mother's Day is unique in the adoption community. There are an estimated 6 million adoptees in the US alone - plus millions elsewhere around the world - and they've each got two mothers: the one who is parenting and the one who gave birth.

Mother's Day, celebrated since the days of Ancient Greece, is observed on the second Sunday of May. And ever since 1990, when it was first celebrated in Seattle, Birth Mother's Day (or First Mother's Day) has been observed on the Saturday before Mother's Day.

Mary Jean Wolch-Marsh first conceived the ideas of Birthmother's Day as a result of her own adoption experience. She knew she was a mother, but didnt feel recognized as such, either by those around her or by her daughter's parents. Remembering the feelings she'd experienced at her daughter's birth - feelings of triumph and euphoria - she used them to help in her own healing.

May Birth Mother's Day bring acknowledgement and recognition to every birth mother who ever loved a child lost to adoption. May it honor and celebrate every mother who became childless after birthing a child, and was forgotten on Mother's Day.
-- May Jean Wolch-Marsh

For birthmothers, the observance can be a time to affirm joys and acknowledge the sorrow, grief, and pain that are a part of many experiences, especially those birthmothers who have "lost" children to the foster care system. It can also be a time to break the silence and release years of anguish, worry, shame, or guilt. The purpose of Marsh's Birth Mother's Day is insight, affirmation, growth and wisdom.

In our family, we recognize our childrens' birthmother all the time. She, unfortunately, may not think that we care about her at all, but we do. She may think that we are cruel to not feel that it is not appropriate at this time for a visit, but we do feel that this is the best thing. Only time will tell, however.

We have made a promise in our family to do only things that are healthy for our family - even if it may not be the right choices for others. So far they work. In time, if our choices are not healthy anymore for our family, then we will change our choices and do what is best for everyone. Until then, however, we do things that are healthy for us - - now.

We believe in being honest with our children and they know that their birthmother has asked to see them and that we have said no - at this time. They have asked why we said that and we explained to them that they needed more time to heal and that their birthmother also needed time to heal and to become someone that they would be proud of. They understood.

So until then, we honor their birthmother each day- not just on Birthmother's Day - because without her, we wouldnt have our wonderful gifts - our children.

Tuesday, August 15, 2006

Watch out Bert, Ernie and Elmo....

...Abby Cadabby is crashing Sesame Street's "boy's" club. Click here for more information. I dont know about you, but I think she is just adorable! And so do the kids! I cant wait until the stuff animal comes out! I will be the first in line to get one.

Friday, August 11, 2006

Kids!! What are they thinking?

On Wednesday, my 4 year old son stuck a bead up his nose. I dont know why he did it, but it wouldnt come out. My oldest daughter called me in hysterics because his nose was bleeding because the bead was stuck in there. So we called our favorite EMT - my best friend - who came over and extracted the bead from his nose. Then on Thursday, my 3 year old daughter decided to do the same thing - thankfully the bead wasnt so far up that my oldest daughter couldnt get it out. It was removed with no further incident.

But it got me thinking - why do this? What are you going to accomplish by putting something up your nose? So I did some research - here is what I found....

Kids and Health: A Bean Up the Nose is Nothing to Sneeze At
by Dr. Robert Nohle

Kids are kids; they put things where they shouldn't go. Sometimes (luckily!) it is the cell phone in the toilet or the rubber dinosaur up the bathtub spigot.

My own daughter managed to put nearly half a deck of playing cards in the DVD player and the surprising thing is that it still worked for months until we ultimately found the missing cards. Other times it is a little more worrisome, such as when they put stuff in their mouths, ears, noses and other orifices.

We expect babies and toddlers to put just about everything in their mouths -- and we usually are pretty vigilant about making sure small and hazardous items are away from their reach.

However, don't think you are in the clear just because you have a school-age child! An older child will sometimes intentionally put something somewhere in their body just "because" -- because they are bored, because they just want to see what happens, or because a friend or sibling encourages them.

Most times, the bean in the nose, the quarter found in the toilet (use your imagination) or the Battleship game piece in the ear can become part of family lore, brought up and giggled over through the years. However these incidents are not always amusing -- sometimes serious harm or death can occur.

Up the Nose - -

Kids stick more than their fingers up their noses. Very often kids will stick food or paper up their noses -- which can absorb moisture and swell. Be sure that you are confident you can remove the item before attempting to do it yourself. A physician can use suction to remove a stubborn item, and again, can treat or prevent infection.

Dr. Robert Nohle is chief of pediatrics for Seattle-based Group Health Cooperative. His column runs the first Thursday of every month. Have a question or comment for Dr. Nohle? Contact him at health@seattlepi.com.

Monday, August 7, 2006

Who Nu? A Vulcan Salute

Leonard Nimoy, the Jewish actor noted for playing Mr. Spock on Star Trek, was reportedly the inspiration behind the character's "live-long-and-prosper" greeting. The five fingers held upright and split between middle and ring fingers is the sign of the Jewish High Priest (the Kohen) and can be seen on synagogue and religious artifacts.

Useless information? I dont think so - -

Friday, August 4, 2006

Baby Boy

Eighteen years ago today around 10 am, I gave birth to a 6 lb, 13 oz, 19 inch long baby boy. I remember seeing him for the first time and realizing that a miracle was created. Little did I know that that "miracle" was mine to take care of forever.....who made THAT rule??

Seriously though - - my son has been a source of joy in my life - yes, hes a challenge at times (as he is Autistic) - - but for the most part, I wouldnt trade him in for anything.

So happy birthday my son - - I wish you only happiness and joy for your entire life. Know that you are loved unconditionally - even when we are angry with you.

Happy 18th Birthday!